To all my beautiful Sistahs/Goddesses out there, I wished to post this blog to aid you all in possibly being able to choose a potiental significant/mate/lover.  I know that it is my duty as a "Son of the Great Mother, The All" to be symbolic of a "Compass" and offer some type of direction to you all on your paths while offering "Compassion"!  Some of you Sistahs wonder why is it that no matter what you do to show your man or potiental man love through actions, especially after giving "It" up to him that he doesn't reciprocate in anyway.  That he does not show you that he really cares, even in ways that you know he can.  Now, I'm going to say to you what is one of the possible reasons behind this, however I feel I have to ask some questions.  In the begining, was he all about what he was going to do for you and to you if you were his?  Did he promise you beautiful things to come like buying you things and even helping you out with some bills?  Did he even offer to you to move in and share the load?  And, after you fell under the spell and ****** him, did do any of the **** that he promise he was going to before you gave him your scrament?  Before I continue onward, I feel that it's necessary to interject with this.  I was looking at comic, Corry Holcomb and one of the things that he said in his skit was that the more a man has sex with you, the more your "Value" depreciates.  He was coming from the point of view of a man who just wants to **** and help out with some bills and stuff to keep getting it.  With that said, I will say this to you and trust me, I'm so "Sinsir" bout this, some women give it up too quickly!  Yes I did say that, women give it up too quickly and I will explain this point.  Some men have be trained into to thinking that all they must do is embark on the quest of the "*****" and if it takes for them to lie and even pay for it, that's what they must do.  They will do this as long as they feel they must until they can get "New *****"!  And if you are married to men of this sort, they will get "New *****" and keep dealing with you because it's cheaper in the long run to keep you especially when it comes to the thoughts of him paying alimony and child support.  So with this in mind my Sistahs/Goddesses, I offer you as of now a possible solution to the issue.  When you first meet any guy and he wishes to get to know you better in whatever way, don't give it up right away.  Give yourself like anywhere between one and a half to 6 months.  Yeah I know that sounds extreme to some of you because I know that women have their moments where they are extremely horny and I've been vitimized by that on occassions too, lol!  However, there is a very important lesson in this.  Start like this for example: once that it is determined that the two of you world like to be each other significants, let him know at some point that when it comes to having sexual relations with him you wish to wait a while.  Don't tell him when because if he's a sneaky ************, he will either attempt to play like he's cool with know that he will attempt to test your decision or attempt to make you move quicker to giving it to him.  If he really wishes to be with, he will know that it will take time for you to open that most sacred part of yourself because of the consquences, whether you tell him you wish to wait or not.  Some of you may be saying that if I make him wait, then he'll go to some other woman or women.  Right and that will tell you his intentions from the jump, period!  Also know this, I find that a lot of women I've come into contact with have what Raz Kazz calls "The Cinderella Complex", meaning that women wish to be told that they are the most beautiful woman in that man's life and that no other woman can stack up to her.  Women wish to feel that they have the best "*****" in the world and that she is the "Sexiest *****" in the world!  There are some men out there that will cater to that just to **** you and get on when they get bored with you.  Here's another tip, stop always feeling that you have to dress so provocative or always showing all of what you have to show yourself off.  This is what attracts those type of guys that just want the ass and go, period!  You are advertising yourself as easy.  Some men subconsciously feel that a woman who shows it all that she's up for giving it to him all the time.  Don't accept that, ask around, ask Little Wanye and Jay Z and all the rest and they will tell you that in some way or another.  Give yourself that time period to really see into this guy and what he's really about.  Let a man know that you are are waiting for an unspecified time, you will see what he's about when he stops calling you as much and acts like he doesn't care for you like once before.  If a man is willing to be with you knowing this and still treats you as the Goddess you are, keep him.  Now, I'll leave this open for discussion and other solutions.  Hotep my Goddesses, I really care!